Losing Faith & Finding Freedom I was all of four years old when I woke up in the middle of the night to learn that there was no Santa Claus. There were my parents stashing gifts under the tree – and Sergeant Wynn drunk and obnoxious in the living room. The myth of Santa proved [...]

The Screaming Ghosts of Sexual Autonomy Sometimes the creative voices in my head fly in circles like a flock of screaming ghosts, each frantic to have its story heard. I sit in front of my keyboard like an exorcist, but sometimes the magic doesn’t work. Sometimes the screaming won’t stop and my fingers can’t make [...]

Dating and the Single Sex Writer: Online Personals & The Homoerotic Nature of Heterosexual Dating. Because I’m both a sex educator and a member of the self-aware, tragically hip, on-the-rebound crowd, I often reflect upon relationship dynamics, social interactions, trust, honesty, communication, personal growth, gender roles, childhood issues, and many other topics done to death [...]

Insanity, Being Awake, Returning from the Dead – and Dating. People have been employing colorful, creative, and sometimes extreme language to describe me for years. Love me or hate me, superlatives appear to be important for summing me up. Even so, I wasn’t entirely sure how to react when a date recently proclaimed me “insane.” [...]

Dating, Booty Calls, and the Beauty of Masturbation I need a booty call. But I’m not sure how to go about it. Not because I don’t know that nearly any reasonably good looking woman can go to nearly any bar and find at least one man willing to be her cock in shining latex for [...]